Mary P. WILBER

Other Events and Attributes:

• Occupation: Housewife
• Medical Cond'tn: Complications: paralysis for 6 years
• Census: 1840, Living with husband in Ward 2, Buffalo, Erie Co., New York
• Census: 1850, Living with husband in Elgin, Kane Co., Ill.
• Census: 1860, Living with husband in Elgin, Kane Co., Ill.
• Census: 1870, Living with husband in Elgin, Kane Co., Ill.
• Census: 1880, Living with husband in Elgin, Kane Co., Illinois

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Elgin Daily Courier -

16 August 1888

MRS. R.W. PADELFORD

The Death of a Pioneer resident.

Mary Wilber was born at Brookfield, Madison County, New York, April 22, 1808, and today Mary W. Padelford, died in Elgin, aged 80 years three months and twenty-four days. She was the eldest child in a large family, who were named as follows: Mary P.., Joshua M., Lorenzo D., Olivia M., Sophia, Cordelia, and Harriet. By a second marriage of the father there were born George D., Emily and Julia Wilber. April 2, 1828, the deceased was married to R.W. Padelford at Buffalo, New York. To them was born five children: Levantia (Padelford) McClure, dead; George W. Padelford, in Maywood; Nettie A. Padelford, Mrs. E.S. Joslyn, Mrs. E.C. Kincaid, all of Elgin, and a son, Willie, who died in infancy.

In 1842 the family arrived in Elgin, which has ever since been their home. Through all these years Mrs. Padelford has occupied a position in the home and social circle rarely accorded to a person occupying a private station. Of an unvarying temperament, cool judgment and possessing a heart whose every pulsation was true and noble, she reigned supreme, where love was the kingdom. Her home was one of peace. Behind its portals none disputed her kindly sway. Hundreds, I had almost said thousands, during this homelife of sixty years have tested her hospitality and it was never found wanting. Suffering, sorrow and sin have brought their burden to her and with strong hands and loving acts has she lifted the load from other mortals and given freely of substance and that other and richer draught which flows from a pure heart and heals the pains of life.

Mrs. Padelford was never a demonstrative women; never placing herself in a position to incite criticism except upon the call to duty. Content to work unseen, conscious that One in whom she trusted implicitly would be faithful to the end. In her homelife she was complete, tireless, cheerful, and willing. No fatigue daunted her to do the right, no hindrances overcame her determination to aid. In an unusually large circle of immediate relatives she was the admitted leader, and all willingly owned it.
For sixty years of woman's life she had been a true, loving and helping wife, believing fully in her duties and position and taking upon her as wife and mother all labor and love with joy.

To the one who has walked by her side these three score years, the severance comes with force. A man who loved home with peculiar strength found in his chosen companion a fitting mate. Her gentle, loving nature was a lode-stone that drew from him the richest treasures of love, respect and homage, and the golden chain which joined them never clanked or grew dim. No storm of life to man but found in her repose and the life yet to come will be full of pleasant memories and longings for a re-union which will tide the eternities. As wife, mother and friend she stands pre-eminent. Mrs. Padelford was an earnest unpretentious believer in revealed religion and its Head and in cordial sympathy with it's teachings.

About five years ago she had a stroke of paralysis, and gradually succumbed to its influences. For the last three years, she has been practically helpless, accepting the situation without a murmur, but giving sweet words of thanks for every service. through this illness all that thoughtful hearts or willing hands could do to render life brighter has been freely given. When the hour of separation came, her husband, son and two daughters were present to watch the lamp of life, as it slowly darkened, and without a struggle or pain, the eye which never shone but in love closed, and the heart which throbbed with love to all ceased to beat and she was at rest in the fold of God.

Death should come
Greatly to one of gentle mould like thee,
As light winds, wandering through groves of bloom.
Detach the delicate blossoms from the tree
Close they sweet eyes calmly, and without pain.
And we will trust in God to see thee yet again.

The funeral services will be held at the residence of E.C. Kincaid, 519 Chicago Street, Saturday, August 18th, at 11 o'clock.

Mary married Rodolphus William PADELFORD on 02 Apr 1828 in Village of Buffalo, Erie Co., New York. Rodolphus (son of Manly PADELFORD and Thankful CRAPO) was born on 21 Jul 1806 in Savoy, Berkshire, Massachusetts, USA; died on 08 Dec 1894 in Chicago, Cook, Illinois, USA; was buried in Bluff City Cemetery, Elgin, Kane Co., Illinois. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

1. Levantia PADELFORD was born on 02 Mar 1829 in Buffalo, New York; died on 25 Aug 1859 in Elgin, Kane Co., Illinois.
2. William PADELFORD was born in Jun 1830; died on 05 Sep 1830 in Elgin, Kane Co., Illinois.
3. Jane PADELFORD was born on 19 Aug 1833 in Buffalo, New York.
4. Janette PADELFORD was born on 09 Jul 1835 in New York, USA; died on 01 Jan 1927 in Elgin, Kane Co., Illinois; was buried on 03 Jan 1927 in Bluff City Cemetery, Elgin, Illinois.
5. George W. PADELFORD was born on 25 Jun 1838 in Buffalo, New York; died on 08 May 1917 in Oak Park, Cook Co., Illinois; was buried in Forest Home Cemetery, Forest Park, Cook Co., Illinois.
6. Harriet Isadore PADELFORD was born on 19 Nov 1844 in Elgin, Kane Co., Illinois; died after 1900.
7. Rodolphus William PADELFORD, Jr. was born on 12 Jul 1849 in Elgin, Kane Co., Illinois; died on 05 Sep 1850 in Elgin, Kane Co., Illinois.

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Historical Sketches of the Town of Portland -

Wilbur, John

Came to Portland from Chenango County, this state, in 1826. He never owned real estate in town. He m. for a second wife Mary B. Flint, sister of Henry Flint of this town. He removed from Portland to Elgin, Illinois and died there. Mrs. W., is still living there. His son John m. Alma, dau. of Wm. Dunham, an early settler. NOTE: They were m. Feb 1826, according to Fredonia Censor dated 2-17-1826, a Mary Wilbur died on 15 or 22 Aug 1825 in Portland, wife of Capt. John Wilbur, ae 37. - Fredonia Censor 24 Aug 1825 - Perhaps his 1st wife?

John married Mary MORGAN. Mary was born in abt. 1788; died on 15-22 Aug 1825 in Portland County, New York. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]